Just one of those seasons.
Monday, September 9, 2013
I have been a grown-up long enough to know that things change quickly. Really quickly. Life and the obligations it brings can feel manageable one month -easy even! - only to find yourself barely keeping your head above water the next.
Right now is one of those times for a lot of us. Getting back into the swing of things with the kids' school and sports schedule...new commitments at church...new responsibilities at work. All exciting. All good. But when it hits us at once, we can miss the beauty of it all, too focused on just getting it all done.
Here's what helps when I feel the stress making me into someone I don't like:
Read the Bible.
---But don't put any expectations on yourself to create a 3 point sermon and synopsis of what you read. Don't work too hard to find the "deeper meaning". Just read it as a love note. A nice conversation between you and your Father. No pressure.
--- When life feels crazy I'm so tempted to order pizza. But really....it doesn't help. I'd rather spend the half hour in my kitchen chopping and sautéing and grilling. It makes me feel like I'm taking care of my family and giving them priority, and it gives me a sense of control.
Don't be an island.
-- I think when we get busy, friendships can be the first thing we neglect. I have learned that for me, this is a bad choice nearly every time. No matter how busy, it's better for my mind and soul if I take an hour to meet a friend for coffee, or find a quiet place to make a 20 minute phone call. We need each other. There's such solidarity in spending time with people in the same season of life. And if that time together ends in prayer for one another, all the sweeter.
---Whenever you have the chance. For instance, when your family gets excited to see you pull out the pie plate, only to learn you're making this:
Their faces literally fell. What's that? A veggie spiral doesn't bring the same excitement as a pie? That's just funny stuff. Oh the power I yield in the kitchen! (Don't worry. They get pie sometimes. And sometimes I get to obnoxiously perform the evil laugh because the pie plate is being used for veggies instead.)
--- Our kids don't usually spell things out for us. My elementary kids won't come say "Hey mom, I am feeling a little neglected and would just like some time with you. Could we make a date for next Tuesday at 4?" They might, however, be uncharacteristically quick to tears. They might sigh and scoff when asked to do a chore, when they are usually compliant. In addition to just correcting those behaviors, honestly ask yourself what might be behind them. Then decide that your community group won't drop dead from shock if they arrive at your home to find dirty floors and some dishes in the sink. It's okay. Leave the chores undone and go get some FroYo.
Tina had this to say:
I'd add a run or workout to your list.
- September 9, 2013 at 9:01 PM
The Cash Clan had this to say:
First of all, that veggie plate looks GOOD!!! :-) Also, totally feeling you on this. The beginning of this school year is kicking my butt!
- September 15, 2013 at 5:59 PM
Between You and Me had this to say:
So much wisdom in these words of yours. My booty is getting kicked baaaaad over here. I'm not a fan of change...bc I stink at it. I've had some kind of delayed processing over here bc I thought I was doing great, and then the bottom fell out this week.
You're right...slowing down and getting time in the word is essential.
- September 21, 2013 at 7:36 AM
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